I’ve been fascinated by the field of personal development for many years both in my own personal growth and that of others. Whilst doing some co-coaching with a good friend of mine we talked about the beliefs we hold as coaches which help us perform at our best for the client. That conversation got me thinking about the mindset or beliefs that you need as a blogger to help improve your blogging performance and be effective.
1. There is no failure only feedback. I shared this with a fellow blogger and he thought that this was a very powerful belief to have. It takes away the fear of failure and it helps you to make mistakes without beating yourself up. You learn more when you mess up as long as you look for the learning rather than keep hold of the emotion.
2. A persons behaviour is just information about them. Very often in blogging and social media you can get hooked by seemingly negative comments. It’s said that we like people who are like us. So does that mean we dislike people who are not? You will probably find them challenging because they’ll communicate in different ways to you and what you might find to be rude and pointed may be an attempt to give you some valuable feedback. Someone pointed out in a comment that I needed to provide better navigation in my posts which was puzzling me until I realised I’d done an upgrade on my theme and the links were now not being highlighted. That useful comment made me change the link settings and they are now more in tune with my branding. (Has anyone noticed this?)
3. Your readers want you to succeed. Since I’m a trainer and teacher I often need to deliver talks and presentations to audiences. It’s all to easy to imagine that they are waiting to see you slip up, dry up and have a CRAFT moment (Can’t Remember A Flipping Thing). The truth is totally the opposite and it’s the same for people reading your blog. They are looking for inspiration, new ideas, a new nugget of information that will help them break through a technical or emotional block. They want you to provide that for them and over a period of time they’ll know that you can speak to them in your unique voice. Never underestimate the value of your knowledge. Sometimes what seems obvious to you is a revelation to others.
4. There is no such thing as an overnight success. A big one here! Patience, as I highlight in my post about the 7 reasons why blogs fail, is the key requirement in blogging. Expecting to get quick results or trying to cheat the search engines will end in tears and frustration. When I used Site Build It software to build websites they emphasised the saying that on the net the tortoise beats the hare. Consistency and persistence will eventually help to reach that critical mass of readers and build a community of fans. There are few short cuts on the internet.
5. If someone else can be a successful blogger so can I. There are plenty of bloggers out there who have started from scratch with very little experience of how to use the web. It’s all too easy to get disheartened by following other blogs with masses of visitors and comments a mile long. Notice what they’re doing and emulate them but stay true to your personality and authentic way you communicate. I’ve seen speakers attempting to copy others and the stretch is too much. Steal their ideas and tips and techniques, do it your way and follow belief number six.
6. Always be learning. This is one of my favourites. I love learning which is why I enjoy the internet, making music, and practising Ki Aikido. Like blogging there’s always something else to learn and you can always get better whatever your current expertise. So hunt out those special bloggers who are the teachers in this world. They’ll feed you forever for free.
So those are my first six beliefs that affects blogging performance and in the next post I’ll share some more. Nurturing these beliefs and integrating them into your blogging mindset will help you to blog more efficiently, effectively and authentically with less anxiety and fear.
What are your views about what beliefs are helpful to you to improve your blogging performance?